We’ve all tried to “find ourselves”. Maybe that’s what your parents called your college year. Maybe that’s what you call that one tattoo. Maybe that’s how’d you’d describe your last job…or your last marriage.

But the real question is, did you ever find what you were looking for?

For those who on the search—and for those who just gave it up—we offer a series exploring who you really are down deep and why that matters so much.

But before we see who we really are, we need to address why we’d pretend to be anyone else to begin with.